Venus Rising: For the Boys

Hello Lovers!
Previously in my column I have talked of my love and respect for my FTM brothers in arms. I wanted to know a little more about these Adult performers and get a fresh take on what their experiences have been blazing their own TS trail in the Industry. Recently, I sat down with my pal, the gorgeous FTM star James Darling, to get a firsthand report for my loyal readers. Enjoy!

XOX,
V.

How did you first become involved in the Adult Industry?
I first got involved with porn in 2009 when I did a scene with a friend for the all genders queer porn sitecrashpadseries.com. I loved doing it so much I immediately applied to every company in the bay area that would shoot a FTM guy. I was fortunate enough to get a few more gigs and built a following, hustled hard and things took off from there!

What was your first shoot like?
My first shoot was with another FTM performer. He tied me to a bed post and things got pretty kinky with some knife play, boot worship and strap on cock sucking! I came super hard when he was blowing me while fucking my pussy with his hand. It was pretty hot!

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What are some misconceptions about FTM porn?

I think a lot of people don’t know what FTM means or even know that FTM porn exists! I think some people assume that trans men are not very sexual because we don’t have the same kind of cocks as men who are not trans. In reality most trans men I know have very voracious sexualities and sex drives. Some people also assume that all trans men are bottoms, when some of the best tops I’ve ever met are FTM guys. We’re just as diverse as any other type of man.

How do you feel about doing films with MTF actors?
I often find that I relate to trans women because we often have similar shared histories of struggling with identity, societal pressures and having to navigate transition and are able to relate to each other in ways that non trans people cannot. I love trans women because I love all kinds of women, and am mostly attracted to femininity in my personal life. What package you come in is less important to me than our connection. 

Who are your favorite performers to work with?
It’s really hard to choose, every performer I’ve worked with has been sweet, professional and really special! One of my favorite scenes I’ve ever done was with Wolf Hudson for Queerporn.tv, I think that scene really changed a lot of things for FTM porn and became accessible to a lot of people who had never seen a trans guy in porn before and, of course, working with him was really hot. I also really enjoyed my scenes with Arabelle Raphael because she is an incredible performer and really amazing person with a very filthy and creative mind.

What genre of porn do you prefer performing in?
I like a lot of things, but transsexual porn is my favorite.

James

Who is your dream partner to work with and why?
You, of course! I find your grace and poise stunning and I think you are a very talented performer. I would love a chance to work with you sometime!

In your opinion, what is the future of FTMs in TS films and the Industry as a whole?
In general I’ve been noticing that the adult industry seems to be ready for new avenues and ways of doing porn. FTM porn is a newer genre and it’s developing at a rapid rate as more and more people learn about it. I would love to see trans men become recognized for their efforts and talents like other adult performers. I think trans men have a lot of great things to bring to the table and I think the time is right for the genre to grow and for trans men to be embraced by the adult industry.

Venus Rising: Eat, Pray, Love. Man, Woman, TS Woman?

Venus LuxHello, Lovers!
Lately, it seems as if the world is changing in massive ways on a daily basis. People are expanding their minds and challenging their boundaries constantly. Each passing second, another person opens their perspective to something new and unexpected. Through our desire to communicate our mistakes, emotions, and our human nature to generate thoughts and ideals, we are in the midst of a revolution of evolution.

There has been an abrupt tidal wave of individuals, men and women alike, seeking the comfort of a transsexual woman or man. May it be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or  just for mutual companionship. The Media has recently amplified the attention given to transgenderism and stimulated curiosity in mainstream society. I myself have experienced this phenomenon first hand on more than one occasion. Personally, I believe now is the time that transgenderism is moving one step closer to “normalization”.
Recently I encountered an older gentleman who sparked my psyche. He made me question the possibility of cohabitation and cohesion of lifestyle between a man, woman, and a transgender woman. Personally, I would have nether fathomed the thought. However, since then I have contemplated the matter further. This man has been a supporter and advocate for transgenderism most of his life. His idea has left an imprint on me, not just because it’s so unique, but also because this idea comes from a person of success, power, authority, and public presence.  He explained it like this : “All three genders would be able to find companionship with one another without jealousy because there are three genders. The male and female may have a child together and the transgender woman and female would raise them together. With all three genders there are no problems with sexual intimacy if all the individuals are open.”
That led me to question myself. Is this possible? Would this be ideal for me? It definitely has placed a seed of thought in my mind because I am open sexually with women and men but I cannot have children like a genetic woman can. Personally, men have been a default when it comes to dating, sex, and companionship. Rarely do I stray from the default. I am too particular with women and have yet to find one with whom I can connect personally and intimately. I like men who are virile, fit, endowed, but yet sensitive, confident, and versatile but not a gentile. For women, I seek someone who is naturally beautiful, intellectual, not as emotional, and is well balanced blend of masculine and feminine. I guess I would say a tomboy who can be pretty and dress up. If I were to have these two types of people of those genders, my god, this would be a heaven of a lifestyle! Food for thought.
Tell me your thoughts guys, what do you think of a man, woman, and transgender woman living together and having a relationship equally together? Possible? What would be some pros and cons in your opinion? What is your experience? Has the thought ever crossed your mind?
XOX,
V.

Venus Rising: Being Open

Venus LuxHello Lovers!!
Spring is in the air and love is all around. I see many friends beginning to couple up and embark on brand new trysts they hope will turn into that one meaningful relationship. Those already in relationships are broadening their horizons and attempting to spice things up. Relationships, whether new or long term, grow, expand and change. A group of my gal pals from both ends of the spectrum got together recently and the subject of open relationships came up. I was asked if I thought that was a good path to explore.

I have noticed open relationships have been all the rage these days. The ability to commit without the added stress of monogamy has become increasingly common over the years. They are popular amongst both young and old and especially prominent in married couples. Sounds like everything one can ask for! You have someone stable by your side and at the same time you have the freedom to do as you please and have sex with those you have a fleeting, physical fixation with. But what part does love play in an open relationship, how long can an open relationship last, and what are the values and morals of an open relationship?

I believe love has no boundaries or restriction to one person as long as it comes from good intent.  The longevity of an open relationship is based on a foundation of understanding and communication between one another and what is considered acceptable for those two individuals. Yes, open relationships defy age old relationship standards, but I believe it is one of the possible solutions to achieve a successful relationship when we consider the fact that Americans have a 50% divorce rate and many of those marriages end over a wandering eye not because the core of the union was not rooted in love.

People are impulsive and can sometimes commit too soon and lose themselves in the moment. We Americans tend to live our lives as part of a machine. Birth. School. Work. Death.  We leave for college right after high school. We educate ourselves and graduate to get a great job. We find a job to make money so we can find a mate. When we get married we need money to pay for our bills, kids, and family and then we grow old, retire, and ultimately die. With such a life how can anyone find time for true happiness and sexual fulfillment within this standard?

In my personal life, I do prefer open relationships first before I choose to become monogamous. I like to have all of my options available in front of me. Settling for anything less than that does not sit well with me. I believe everyone is deserving of what they desire and what suits them best. Open relationships give me a chance to get to know the person without having to over commit and possibly lose time from dedicating too much to one man in a situation that may not work out. It is the best way for me to remain genuine and makes me look forward to seeing that special someone I don’t get to spend time with as often as I would like to. I don’t want to give, show, or tell everything about myself so soon. I like to leave a bit of mystery in the air and keep the spontaneity alive.

XOX,
V.

Venus Rising: My Boys

Venus LuxHello Lovers!
Quite often in this column it may feel like we are overlooking our Female to Male transitioning brothers in arms and I just wanted to make it known that this is not the case at all. This column is about my views and experiences and may seem to lean Male to Female transsexual in content, so I wanted to take the time to discuss and give props to “my boys”.

Being nominated for and winning multiple awards this year has not just been a validating experience for me, it’s also been educational. I’ve met so many people from varied genres it has opened my eyes to the frontiers still left to be explored in the Adult Industry. As we MTF Transsexuals have gained visibility and acceptance from the Industry as a whole, a new group of performers craves their full voice to be heard. I’m happy to report there are so many talented  FTM’s out there and I can only say their time has come.

I will be featuring interviews with FTM Adult Performers in this column next week and asking some burning questions I want answers to. I’m asking all you readers to write in with your questions for our FTM friends as well. I am so excited to work and chat with these amazing performers and gain insight into myself through their experience as well.
XOX,
V.